This time last week I danced on the
tube carriage that I was sexually assaulted on. I was dancing not only for
myself, but also for the millions of women across the world that live with the
constant threat of sexual harassment. I wanted to take a stand, and to send a
message; here is how I got on:
The accompanying blog post explained my motivation. I wanted
to share my story publicly because I knew of other women who had
experienced similar harassment, I knew that it's a subject many women find it
difficult to talk about, and I knew how liberating being open about these
incidents could be. Above all, I knew that living with the threat of sexual
harassment was wrong, and that it was time to start talking about it.
As I placed my placard down on the northern line carriage I
felt a mixture of emotions, just as I had done when writing the blog and
reading those initial responses. I felt nauseous, delighted, exhilarated,
focused, and really sad all at the same time. It's hard to explain precisely. Looking at the faces of my fellow passengers,
I also sensed varied response. Understandably some people avoided looking at
me, others were intrigued and stared intently, while others again looked
visibly shocked. Overwhelmingly though, I was met with warmth. I was met with
the kind supportive smiles of strangers who perhaps identified with my story.
Many people approached me afterwards to offer their encouragement and good
will, and to tell me of their own experiences.
With over 10,000 blog views in the past week, the response to
my story has been extraordinary, and at times, overwhelming. Many people have
shared their experiences of assault in London and across the world,
they have sent me personal messages of support, and told me how they'd been
sharing their own stories with friends for the first time. They told me of
occasions where they had been socially and professionally excluded as a result
of standing up to harassment, and they have expressed their exasperation and
determination to make a change.
I want to be part of a movement where women are empowered to
talk about their experiences of harassment without feeling embarrassed or
ashamed. Let's keep sharing our stories with our friends, families, co-workers,
and with the world.
Stay tuned for more information on how to get involved, and use #takebackthetube or @elliecosgrave to get in touch, or leave a comment below.
Hello! :)
ReplyDeleteI've already reached out to you on Facebook and Twitter but I thought I'd leave a comment here too just in case. I hope I'm not being too annoying!
I'm a student journalist at City University London working on an article about sexual harassment against women on public transport and I was just wondering if I could interview you?
I've been searching around for people to interview after reading your story you seemed like the perfect candidate! The article is basically about how women can feel safer on the Tube and safety measures that women can take to report or prevent sexual harassment. Having experienced sexual harassment on public transport myself I feel like this is an important issue that women should speak more about.
I understand that you are probably busy but the interview won't take much more than 10 minutes :) we can do it over e-mail, Facebook, or whichever medium you prefer.
The article will be published on St John Street News at stjohnstreet.net.
I'd be absolutely thrilled if you agree! Please do e-mail me back at tehaikhui@hotmail.com if you're interested.
Thank you,
Aik Hui Teh
I'm about to go to a dance audition tomorrow where I know I am going to be asked about pieces that have moved me. Yours came to mind. Over a year on, and I still think this is one of the bravest and most inspiring pieces I have seen.
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